DON'T TELL ME TO 'CHILL' WHEN I'M UPSET OVER REAL SH*T

Mar 17

If there is anything more frustrating to hear when you are truly in pain or having an emotional response to something, it’s this:

JUST CHILL.

When you are feeling it, like really feeling something and are worried or upset, to be told: STOP WORRYING, IT WILL WORK OUT … or JUST CHILL, IT WILL BE OVER SOON … or JUST BE POSITIVE, THIS ISN’T THE END OF THE WORLD … it’s called:

DENYING SOMEONE THEIR FEELINGS.

Being validated when you are going through some real sh*t is PRICELESS … and honestly, ‘people who say chill’ >> it takes just as long to say:

“I’M SO SORRY YOU ARE FEELING THIS OR I’M SO SORRY THIS IS HAPPENING”

^^ that … and if anything, it takes LESS time, because if you tell me to ‘chill’ when I am going through some REAL TOUGH SH*T … you will not get a proper response from me, which will lead to a much longer conversation … one that will not be pleasant.

If you are a small business owner and you are being affected by COVID-19, you know this is a REALLY SCARY situation … we can’t exactly ‘get together’ for coffee with our friends right now and hash through all our feelings or have a healthy vent sesh … so a lot of us are turning to Facebook to vent … and it makes me so mad to see some of the comments on there!

For instance, when I see wedding and event industry business owners saying how scared they are about all the income they are losing and the cancellations and refunds they are having to send out, which cost them THOUSANDS of dollars immediately, I have seen responses like this:

THIS WILL END SOON AND THERE WILL BE WEDDINGS AGAIN, SO FOCUS ON THAT INSTEAD.

NOTHING YOU CAN DO, SO JUST BE POSITIVE.

IN 9 MONTHS THERE WILL BE TONS OF WEDDINGS, SO STOP WORRYING!

NOTHING TO BE DONE BUT WAIT, SO NO SENSE IN POSTING THIS AND WORRYING OVER SOMETHING YOU CAN’T CONTROL.

To those people who think they are being HELPFUL by saying that stuff, please knock it off. To me, that’s like the 30 year olds bragging about all the bar hopping they are doing because: they won’t die from this …

Losing an income is f*cking TERRIFYING!!!!! Instead of shutting them down and spinning it to be a positive, consider what they are going through RIGHT NOW … imagine you just lost income for possibly 2-4 months or longer …