TAKE YOUR PIECE WITH YOU - NO MATTER HOW SMALL

Oct 14

There is a lot of ‘mudslinging’ on social media these days … it’s enough to drive me insane … I’m sure a lot of you reading this are also going insane. I’ve written about this before, and I’m doing it again:

THE ANGER WAVES ON FACEBOOK AFFECT LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE INTERNET

I can’t tell you how many irritated and annoyed clients have surfaced in the last week + … not even just MY clients, but stories my clients tell me of ‘out of nowhere’ asshole behavior from seemingly ‘normal people’ all of a sudden.

IT’S NOT ALL OF A SUDDEN. IT’S THE TONE OF A PLACE WE ALL SPEND WAY TOO MUCH TIME.

I’m guilty … I spend WAY TOO MUCH TIME on Facebook … it’s where I get my news which is SO BAD … news with a dash of opinion and a side of guilt … ick … terrible for the soul. And what drives me to feeling angry more than anything is that people are acting like:

VICTIMS.

The victim mentality is a soul crushing killer that rips people of the internal voice of:

I CAN DO IT.

When you walk around blaming everyone else for why you are upset or why you feel like a failure or why you aren’t getting the job you want or why you *whatever it may be* … well, then you don’t have your piece to control - which means you:

LOSE CONTROL.

Feeling like you lost control is not a good feeling … it leads to anger and depression … it leads to ‘mudslinging’ on FB … all in all, it’s super unhealthy. We have a saying in our house:

TAKE YOUR PIECE WITH YOU - NO MATTER HOW SMALL.

What does this mean? It means that NO MATTER what happened to you … or how awful … there is at least a tiny, sliver, or a scrap that you can own … that YOU can manage … that you can take with you, focus on, and own your own life. If you focus on YOUR SH*T and your piece and leave the rest of the pie where it is … then you have the power to gain control of your life and move forward.

HEATHER, SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING A PERSON WOULD SAY WHO HAS NEVER FACED ADVERSITY.

Well, then you should call me up … I have stories for you that I’ve personally dealt with that would cause your jaw to fall on the floor … things that could have destroyed me. But, I took my piece of those things, I did the hard work on myself, and I chose to move forward.

LOOK, I’M NOT HERE TO LECTURE YOU.

You need to live your life however you want … if focusing on sh*t other people do seems to help you, then you need to do that … but it’s here again …. the fog of sad … the fog of depressed, angry, unsettled people …

NONE OF US KNOW THE TRUTH.

Doesn’t that boggle your mind a little bit? Some of ‘us’ are SO ANGRY and are taking sides over things we only get snippets of … hearsay … stories passed through many channels similar to the game of ‘telephone’ … and then we have ‘that’ … whatever ‘that’ is … and we get ANGRY over it … we unfriend people … we yell … we say sh*t we can’t take back.

WHAT IF EVERYONE CONSIDERED THAT BOTH SIDES WERE PARTIALLY RIGHT? THAT IT’S NOT BLACK AND WHITE.

Could you live in the grey and let the anger go? Could you remind yourself that everyone is here for such a short time? Could you choose to focus on your family, the people you love, focus on your business and stop letting ‘it’ consume you?

HEATHER, IS THIS GETTING POLITICAL?

No … maybe … I’m just ranting … haha … I understand change is great … it’s necessary … that ‘certain people’ shouldn’t be in power … I’m not saying that ‘action’ isn’t great … it’s the best! But is it great to the point where it consumes you? 2 ish years ago when ‘something orange’ took over this country I watched sh*t go crazy for business owners I work with … I watched business decline … some people stopped feeling ‘romantic’ … stopped feeling the creative vibes … all I’m saying is that negativity is contagious and me and lots of my clients are already feeling the affects of this latest stuff … the tone that is settling all around.

WHAT DOES YOUR SLICE SAY ABOUT YOU?

If you look on your own FB feed and the last few posts are all ‘angry’ and the funny memes or the ‘celebrations’ of your business are starting to be less and less … then maybe it’s time for a shift so you don’t get swallowed up … take your piece, do what you can do, and let the rest of the sh*t that is unhealthy go … in fact,